Are you feeling stuck?
Have you ever felt stuck? Perhaps your current job isn’t offering the same growth opportunity it once did. Or no matter how many ways you tweak the budget you still can’t seem to make it work. Maybe you are at an impasse with your spouse over the correct way to hang the toilet paper. (front hanging is the TRUE WAY, however let’s face it, if a man replaces it at all that is a HUGE win) These moments lead us to feel stuck by our circumstances and leave us unsure how to get out.
When you get “stuck” it is easy to look at the enormity of your situation. It becomes easy to take your eyes off of those around you and focus on your current situation. If we aren’t careful we can get stuck so long that we forget where we were going, we lose our vision, we lose our passion, and we stagnate. We become defeated.
If you find yourself in this place DO NOT SETTLE there. There is so much more, there is something beyond the muddy pit you are in. To get unstuck you need to change your focus!
Focus on Jesus
Psalm 40:2 NIV – He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand.
Jesus knows you! He knows the situation you are in and he wants rescue you. Try this the next time you feel defeated by a situation.
- Focus on Jesus and trust him with your situation! (1 Peter 5:7)
- Be honest about where you are
- Ask God to restore your vision and passion
- Ask “What can I learn from this experience?”
Focus on Others
We are commanded to love God and love others (Luke 10:27). When we find ourselves in sticky situations we cannot afford to miss the amazing opportunity to learn and grow. If we can shift our focus away from our self and towards others some amazing things can happen.
- When you start focusing on serving God and others, your own situation will shift out of focus, and will lose its grip on you.
- God can use you to guide others through similar difficult situations.
- Putting other’s needs first creates an excellent launchpad for leadership growth.
So how exactly are we supposed to do this?
What is our next move? We understand what to do, but taking an actual step can be daunting. How do we know which move is the right one?
…My story has been a long road of mistakes, learning, growing, falling, getting up. Ultimately I am trying to find my purpose and reach my own potential. I have felt “stuck” many times. Finding that unique thing that God made me perfectly for has not exactly been a walk in the park. Here is what I have learned so far.
- There is no magical moment one day that takes you to the top, or tells you exactly what to do. Instead life is full of choices, every day decisions, and small steps.
- It is easy to be overwhelmed, unsure, and maybe even frightened about where to go, what the next step is.
- It’s much easier to focus on ourselves and just settle in and wait for something to happen. (reactive)
- It’s much harder to focus on God/Others to take a step and make something happen. (proactive)
DON’T MISS THIS!
If we just settle in, life WILL pass us by as we become stagnant and immobile.
Choose to take action. Focus on God first and ask him to lift you out of the muck and give you new vision. Then focus on others and take a step away from your current situation. You may not be 100% certain on your next move, but move anyway. If you need help to determine if the next step is the right one ask yourself if it aligns with these questions?
Does it honor God?
Does it honor people?
…Back to my story – I believe that my purpose is in leadership and coaching. I am taking the first step to get going by serving others with the gifts I have. I may stumble and I may take a wrong step but that’s ok! God can take what I offer, a willing heart, and teach me, mold me, and steer me to the right place. God can take my willingness and begin to show me through experiences exactly what he has for me.
We can discover new talents, new passions, new people, as long as we are willing to move. At first the progress might seem slow or even non existent. Over time though, we can look back at the big picture and realize where God has taken us, revealing only small steps at a time.
God uses the simple path we have been following to lead us to unimaginable new heights.